The Gospel Truth

The Marriage Wars

April 30, 2013

I have done a lot of research on cultural Marxism.

It was Antonio Gramsci who recognized in the 1920s that the best way to undermine the West was to start a long march through its culture.

He also recognized that Italian women were exceptionally tied to their families, homes, children and their Catholic faith.

It fell to the survivors of the Frankfurt school, a number of expatriate Jewish scholars who escaped to the United States and taught in several of this country’s universities to put Gramsci’s ideas into practice.

I am talking foremost about Herbert Marcuse who exhorted his students in the 1960s to make love and not war.

Herbert Marcuse in Newton, Massachusetts 1955.jpeg

Undermined marriage

His protegé was Betty Friedan whose book The Feminine Mystique did more harm to marriage and the American family than could be imagined.

I compare her book to Harriet Beecher Stowe’s Uncle Tom’s Cabin.

I say this…not because I think women were slaves but because as Lincoln has been quoted as saying when he met Mrs. Stowe…Oh, you are the little lady who started the Civil War.

As a virtual marriage abolitionist…at least in effect…Friedan’s book did help ignite the culture war.

Perhaps Friedan can be regarded as the little woman who started the marriage wars!

Betty Friedan 1960.jpg

Marriage was her battleground

The Roe v. Wade decision and the feminist movement, which followed her book, have greatly hurt traditional marriage.

Now on its heels is the Rainbow Movement of homosexuals who march under the banner of marriage equality.

They have made it a matter of individual autonomy and equality of choice, similar arguments as used by the radical feminists.

No one is free to marry anyone or anything they want.

License over tradition

I once argued with a young friend several years ago about this subject.

He was all in favor of same-sex marriage.

I asked him what if one of the spouses was 14-15?

Oh no he said.  That would be wrong.

Why would it be wrong, I countered.

It just is, he said.

By whose standard?

Because one would be too young, he said!

But what if they  both loved each other and had consented to this sexual union?

He had no answer.

This smart young man could not accept the fact that by letting the nose of SSM into our national tent, he had inadvertently had his logic turned on him to allow its less than social parts into our tent.

That’s why liberals lose most arguments on facts and logic and have to resort to ad hominem attacks and emotional pleas.

In ancient Greece and Rome the left usually dispatched reasonable and logical people because they threatened their aggressive agendas.

Death for the logical

Personally I think the age of consent is the main reason that this is an issue.

I believe there are many in the homosexual community that don’t want any age limitations on their sexual activity.

And age is a relative number isn’t it?

I read a headline in a gay newspaper in San Fransisco many years ago that lamented...if no sex by eight…it’s too late.

If they get their way on this aspect of marriage, I’ll bet there are a few former priests in prison who would be muttering…if I had only waited!

If one can change the original and essential terms of the definition then everything is possible.

Russian writer Dostoevsky noticed that in the 19th century.

Vasily Perov - Портрет Ф.М.Достоевского - Google Art Project.jpg

Knew what would happen

A man then can marry several women.

Or a woman–several men.

I am certain there are pockets of this going on in Utah and other places.

Did they not make a series about that on HBO?

Big Love I think it was called.

I have noticed some people seem to have what may be delicately described as an intense relationship with their pets.

Many people leave their wealth to their pets, such was their affection for their animals.

So why not a bestial union with one’s loving companion?

A new tradition

PETA doesn’t like the word Pet.

So in essence there can be no such thing as a gay marriage.

The marriage wars have also caused a deeper rift within the Republican party.

Many of the Party’s so-called stalwarts have already abandoned ship.

Many of the moderates, who date back to the Republican Roosevelt sense that this will be a losing issue that it is also wiser to choose political expediency over moral principles.

Think Karl Rove and his spineless moderate approach to winning elections!

President Theodore Roosevelt, 1904.jpg

Gave us Karl Rove

It has also been interesting to read the many different opinions on how gay marriage is natural.

There was one bit of cotton candy for the soul that appeared in the New York Times, pointing out a handful of different animal and insect species which on occasion had crossed the line of sexual difference.

Canadian conservative David Frum, though probably not the best one to defend the sanctity of marriage or any other conservative principle for that matter, gave the most obvious argument that same-sex marriage severed the institution’s connection to the two inter-related realities of gender difference and procreation.

In doing so they would replace the traditional building block of society that was more family oriented  with a broader, thinner, more adult-centric view, which would ultimately be less likely to bind parents to children, husbands and wives.

Andrew Sullivan, a long-time homosexual activist countered that heterosexuals had already severed marriage from procreation.

Andrew Sullivan cropped.jpg

Pushing the agenda

This is not exactly true!

While millions of couples have sought to limit the number of children in their families through a combination of natural or artificial birth control, as well as abstinence, the vast majority still bring any where from one to three or four children into their families.

There is not a complete severance.

He also gave what has become the party line in his circles of trying to prove that homosexual unions would bring a new stability to marriage, sending a firm message about matrimonial responsibility and mutual caring to gays and straights alike.

That would be risible if he had not been so serious.

The forces at the Times are trying to advance the capstone notion, held by the gnostic liberals of our day that marriage is not about families any more.

Now they see marriage as a celebration of adult achievement, which they think this seems to work out better for Americans in the long run.

I guess this micro-management of traditional marriage is just another example of Barack Obama’s idea of the new normal.

The man said he was going to change things, didn’t he?


The New Adam…and Steve

April 11, 2013

The first man…Adam has always enjoyed a high regard and importance in Biblical discussion.

While it may not have happened exactly like Moses wrote it, people can rest assured that every aspect of it is the divinely inspired word of God and absolutely true in its essential meaning.

Man was created in a primordial state of bliss… the first paradise.

adam and eve in the garden of eden photo: Titian Adam and Eve TitianAdamandEve.jpg

Eve but not Steve

But with all the wonders of God and nature before him he was still very much alone.

It was something akin to looking at the natural majesty of the Grand Canyon.

After a  minute or two…one needs to move on…especially since there was no one for Adam to share it with.

So God created Eve from Adam’s rib and the rest as they say is Biblical history.

Then first newlyweds were tempted by pride.

Mankind fell hard and sin entered the world.

Just look around you.  Read a newspaper.  Sin’s existence should not be so hard to believe.

Man was now eternally barred from the joys, blessings and unfathomable pleasures of heaven.

Enter Jesus Christ…the New Adam to suffer and die on the cross and open heaven’s gates.

This is what 100s of millions of Christians have believed for millenia.

John Paul II has written and lectured widely on the Garden of Eden as the origins of marriage as the Western world has basically known and respected it for 2000 years.

He developed a highly abstract rendition of Genesis, the Sermon on the Mount, the Song of Songs, and several of Paul’s epistles to show the state of marriage before and after the fall.

Song of Solomon, illustrations 4:16, pictures: windflowers

One of the world’s greatest love songs

His topics delve into sexual intimacy, nudity, celibacy, contraception and many other ideas that relate to a sex-obsessed country in a mature Christian manner.

Different cultures have allowed for polygamous societies where a man could have more than one wife…sometimes numbering in the 1000s.

Islam in the 7th century limited that number to just four though a man could service several concubines and mistresses.

It was Christianity and Christianity alone that raised the status of women unlike anything the world had seen.

And as most men have learned, though women might not have always had equal legal status outside of the home.

Behind the closed doors of her home she can get anything she wants from her man through her feminine wiles.

The lot of women was even more protected when the Church raised marriage to the level of a holy sacrament.

Marriage with its emphasis on natural law could only be between a man and a woman.

If one believes in God, one has to accept that marriage is only between a man and a woman.

Otherwise why would God have created both men and women with specific reproductive roles and the bodies to carry out his plan?

The late Bishop Fulton Sheen wrote a book that put Christian marriage in its proper perspective.

It was called Three to Get Married.

No, I don’t think he meant the husband wife and mother-in-law.

Sheen emphasized how God was necessary for any human marriage to be successful and fruitful.


God must be present

No where is there ever any mention of a Steve or a Tom, Dick or Harry to replace Eve.

The idea of gay marriage would be a risible oxymoron if it were not so serious and so potentially damaging to the already shattered edifice of Western Civilization.

Marriage is the ultimate and most important building block of a stable society.

Anything that threatens its foundation is anti-cultural and a threat to traditional society.

I am talking about the obvious–adultery, drug and alcohol abuse, pornography, criminal behavior, immaturity and just laziness.

All of these behaviors undermine the pillars of fidelity, honesty and chastity that any marriage needs to thrive.

Gays say they want marriage equality.

How about marriage integrity?

Just what does that mean?

They can marry anyone they want within the proper limits of the definition of a marriage…just like anyone else.

Heterosexual people have limitations as well.  They cannot marry their children, first cousins, another women or man without a civil divorce.

They cannot marry their loving pets.

Men and women are not fungible.  They cannot be replaced or substituted for one another because of their gender differences.

What gives a small group…about 2% of the population the right to change a traditional cultural institution after 1000s of years of history and tradition?

Nobody is saying they cannot get married…but within the confines of marriage’s definition.

While children don’t seem to be the standard for today’s couples, the basic fact is that any same-sex marriage is founded on a lie.

There is no natural complementation.

Marriage is not a nominalist invention that can be lightly changed without affecting and dismantling its essential meaning.

A perfect natural complement

Their natural parts just don’t fit.

And emotionally their only hope is of an artificial unity that is based on the arrested development of one of the parties.

There may be some strong emotional bondage but it will never be a true marriage.

Homosexual couples may enjoy something that is of mutual value to the parties but it is nothing that would be of any value to the longevity of a society, let alone a civilization.

Of course married men and women within the context of the sexual revolution have all but destroyed marital integrity but this would be the coup de gras.

Heterosexual marriage is redundant and gay marriage is a contradiction in terms.

Same sex marriage is just the latest and maybe the most pernicious threat because it radically changes the definition of what a marriage is.

Eager to get married

Rush Limbaugh, who is intellectually correct, far more than he is mistaken says that the battle was lost for conservatives when they allowed modifiers to the concept of marriage.

The sad irony of this whole bitter debate is that millions of heterosexual couples seem to be renouncing marriage as a social good and a moral necessity while homosexuals are eager to walk down the isle…mainly for social approval.

Without marriage as a solid building block the bell will be tolling for Western Civilization, sadly as it toll for you and for me.

This is just another chapter in the culture war.

Look for a future essay on the marriage wars.

About author

After graduating from Holy Cross, Bill Borst earned an MA in Asian History from St. John's University and a Ph.D in American History from St. Louis University. (1972) A former New Yorker, he taught for many years in the St. Louis area, while also hosting a weekly radio show on WGNU from 1984-2006. He currently is a regular substitute for conservative Phyllis Schlafly on KSIV radio. (1320) He is the author of two books on social history, "Liberalism: Fatal Consequences," and "The Scorpion and the Frog: A Natural Conspiracy." He just retired as the Features editor of the Mindszenty Foundation Monthly Report. In his 11 years from 2003-2013 he wrote nearly 130 essays on Catholic culture and world affairs. Many in St. Louis also know him as the "Baseball Professor," because of a course that he offered at Maryville College from 1973-74. It was arguably the first fully-accredited baseball history course in the Midwest.The author of several short books on the old St. Louis Browns, he started the St. Louis Browns Historical Society in 1984. In 2009 his first two plays were produced on the local stage. "The Last Memory of an Ol' Brownie Fan," ran six performances at the Sound Stage in Crestwood and "A Perfect Choice" ran for two performances at the Rigali Center Theater in Shrewsberry. His third play, "A Moment of Grace," ran six performances at DeSmet High School in January of 2011with First Run Theater in January of 2011. He is currently working on a 4th play, "A Family Way," which is a comedy about a happy dysfunctional family. He can reached at