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A Little Snow on the Roof

October 2, 2014
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I was at a wedding over 40 years ago.  Since I was by myself I was sitting at a table of friends of the bride’s family.

Since I didn’t know any of them and was suffering from terminal shyness I didn’t offer anything to the conversation.

But I did listen intently to the comments of these middle-aged married couples.  One man in particular said:  Just because there is a little snow on the roof, doesn’t mean there isn’t a fire in the basement.

I think I understood what he meant and as I have gotten older…much older I have come to appreciate his comments even more.

Yet in retrospect I think there is much more meaning hidden in his comments than a basic allusion to age and libido.

His words were almost axiomatic to me in that just because one has aged, does not eliminate him or her from the full joys of livings—all the joys of living…not just sexuality.

Our hormones work on many levels, not just below the belt.  We should try to maintain that fire in the belly for life, not just sex.

I just finished reading Sister Joan Chittister’s book Uncommon Gratitude, which says that we should issue a Alleluia to each new day and accept it as God’s special gift for us to dig, mine and prod until we have sucked all the marrow out of its bones.

This is a Christian twist on Roman poet Horace’s mandate to Carpe Diem….seize the day!

Most people would probably not recognize this classic phrase had it not been for the untimely suicide of actor/comedian Robin Williams and the reprise of his most popular role as the unorthodox prep school teacher, John Keating in Dead Poets Society.

I recent saw the film for the third time.  I easily understood Keating’s enthusiasm and love of teaching. He wanted his students–all very bright young men–not to be forced into square holes by parents, their school or the culture at large.  He advised them to go for the gusto as Budweiser used to promote.

The only problem and one he tragically failed to fully comprehend is that a room full of young men will often seek not the truth and beauty that may have been on his fertile mind but the pleasurable and hormonal experiences of the flesh at such an early age that would not be able to properly understand or handle the emotional consequences of their seizing of the day.

Where Keating failed his students was in not telling them they had some necessary prerequisites before the marrow could be even tasted. His students first needed to learn discernment, self-discipline and good judgment. In other words they needed emotional maturity.

Traditional society has tried to regulate and channel with mixed results these sexual urges in young men especially for centuries. A teacher like Keating is their worst enemy and greatest fear.

Fools will always rush in where angels fear to tread is no cliché.

When I was in high school we studied a similar idea, found in Robert Herrick’s poem,

To the Virgins, to Make Much of Time

Gather ye rosebuds while ye may,
 

Old Time is still a-flying:

And this same flower that smiles to-dayTo-morrow will be dying.

The glorious lamp of heaven, the sun,

The higher he’s a-getting,

The sooner will his race be run,

And nearer he’s to setting.

That age is best which is the first,

When youth and blood are warmer;

But being spent, the worse, and worstTimes still succeed the former.

Then be not coy, but use your time,

And while ye may, go marry:

For having lost but once your prime,

You may for ever tarry.

I doubt if there were ever any more seductive poem than Herrick’s revival of the carpe diem genre. Of the 17th century bachelor’s 2500 poems this is the best remembered.  The over-riding message of Herrick’s work is that life is short, the world is beautiful, love is splendid, and we must use the short time we have to make the most of it.

The major problem with this way of thinking and living is that it too quickly turns to hedonism and the consequences can often be tragic as in the Williams’ movie.

In my mind the idea of Carpe Diem especially in our society is totally wasted.  Thanks to science and medical technology most lives are not short and fleeting.  Most people can look forward to 80-90 years of substantially active and happy living.

Baseball great Mickey Mantle lamented near the end of his 64-year life that had he know he would have lived as long as he did, he would have taken much better care of himself.   No male member of his family had lived past age thirty-nine.  Mostly the family history of working in the zinc mines in Oklahoma was largely responsible for that.

As a nineteen-year-old player Mantle had gone for all the gusto he could swallow and became an alcoholic in the mix.

Youth in deed is wasted on the young.

I think the idea of Carpe Diem should be reserved for the elderly in their golden years.  By that time their family responsibilities have usually been fulfilled. By that time they should have emotional maturity necessary for good judgment.  If they have taken good care of themselves and sexual urges do not seem as demanding then these are the years to go for the gusto and enjoy each day like it might be the last day on earth…because it very well be.

Sister Joan Chittister and her co-author Rowan Williams, the Archbishop of Canterbury have another suggestion. They believe that gratitude should dominate our waking hours as we grow closer to our divine destination.   The authors cite several things that we should be naturally grateful for, such God, peace, wealth, health, faith, family and friends.

But they take the gratitude much further.  We should thank God for everything that happens to us, even our daily crosses of physical and emotional sufferings should be met with a joyful alleluia.

To them life is an exercise in learning just how to sing Alleluia here so that we can recognize the face of God  hidden in deep recesses of time.  Some quiet reflection should help us see that the past is never gone from us. Our past lives with its joys, sufferings and challenges have made us what and who we are.

Old age then is also a time for a reflection on the past to see how it has shaped our present lives and to understand the providential links that have brought us to this time in the eternal scope of things.

Teachers and I can say writers and coaches as well since I have done all three often never see the results of their efforts in shaping the minds, hearts and souls of the young people who briefly cross their paths.

I know this is heavy mental stuff but if we don’t do it we run the dark risk of failing to see the importance of our lives to those around us.


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After graduating from Holy Cross, Bill Borst earned an MA in Asian History from St. John's University and a Ph.D in American History from St. Louis University. (1972) A former New Yorker, he taught for many years in the St. Louis area, while also hosting a weekly radio show on WGNU from 1984-2006. He currently is a regular substitute for conservative Phyllis Schlafly on KSIV radio. (1320) He is the author of two books on social history, "Liberalism: Fatal Consequences," and "The Scorpion and the Frog: A Natural Conspiracy." He just retired as the Features editor of the Mindszenty Foundation Monthly Report. In his 11 years from 2003-2013 he wrote nearly 130 essays on Catholic culture and world affairs. Many in St. Louis also know him as the "Baseball Professor," because of a course that he offered at Maryville College from 1973-74. It was arguably the first fully-accredited baseball history course in the Midwest.The author of several short books on the old St. Louis Browns, he started the St. Louis Browns Historical Society in 1984. In 2009 his first two plays were produced on the local stage. "The Last Memory of an Ol' Brownie Fan," ran six performances at the Sound Stage in Crestwood and "A Perfect Choice" ran for two performances at the Rigali Center Theater in Shrewsberry. His third play, "A Moment of Grace," ran six performances at DeSmet High School in January of 2011with First Run Theater in January of 2011. He is currently working on a 4th play, "A Family Way," which is a comedy about a happy dysfunctional family. He can reached at bbprof@sbcglobal.net

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